Is low libido caused by the way women's brains work?

Experts have struggled for years to explain why some women have a low sex drive (libido). And now Detroit-based researchers think they've cracked it. Their brains simply behave differently than other women's, claim the experts.

A recent study suggested low sex drive was simply a marketing ploy to sell more drugs. But the research team from Detroit's Wayne State University claims there is such a thing as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) - in other words, low sex drive - after all. And they have the brain scans to prove it.

The scientists did tests on 26 women, 19 of whom had been previously diagnosed with HSDD. By showing them a series of videos, some of which contained erotic scenes, they were able to measure the women's brain activity using MRI scans.

The women who had been diagnosed with HSDD showed different brain patterns than those who had so-called normal sex drives. For instance, there are certain areas of the brain that become active when you process information about sex. In the women with HSDD, these areas remained inactive while other areas - which aren't normally associated with sexual function - were activated.

The scientists don't yet know exactly what all this means, but what they do know is that when it comes to sex, women's brains don't all work in the say way. And that's particularly relevant for those who have a low libido.

If you're experiencing a lull in your appetite for sex, there are natural remedies that may help. Talking to a counsellor who specialises in relationships could work too.

Back pain puts one in ten women off sex

Forget headaches, back pain has taken over as a bigger passion killer. According to a survey of 8,000 Brits, one in ten women's sex life suffers because of it, with women more likely than men to abstain from sex because of a dodgy back.

The survey, carried out by back support manufacturer Dynaspine, found that 55% of people experienced back pain at least once a month. But back pain isn't the number one reason why we're not having sex, with one in three of us regularly making excuses to our other halves because we're simply too tired.

But sex isn't the only thing that's affected when we get back pain. According to the survey, it makes one in ten of us sleep on the floor, with 16% spending the day in bed because of back pain and 15% staying as still as possible for as long as it takes for the pain to go away.

Just over a quarter of us stop exercising when we get a bad back too, though experts these days reckon keeping moving is the best way to get over a bad back, as inactivity only makes things worse.

So next time you suffer form backache, stay as active as possible. And when your back isn't playing up, try to do some exercises that help strengthen the muscles in your back, which will help prevent the pain coming back (for advice on specific exercises, consult a physiotherapist). Gentle stretching exercises - such as yoga or Pilates - will also help keep your back flexible.

What excuse do you make for not having sex?

One in four rarely uses contraception with a new partner

That first flush of romance can make even the most level-headed among us lose our heads when things get steamy.

At least that's the finding of a survey by the Co-operative Pharmacy, which quizzed 3,000 people about their sexual habits. The survey discovered almost a quarter of people never or only sometimes use contraception when they sleep with a new partner.

It seems all that excitement makes people forget about protecting themselves against sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancies, as the main reason cited for not using contraception was getting carried away in the moment. And a surprisingly frank one in 10 even admitted they just couldn't be bothered about using contraception.

It looks like relationships are going out of fashion for some people too, with 11% of those questioned claiming the majority of their sexual encounters were one-night stands. A further 13% admitted they mostly had quick flings, while 2% said most of the people they slept with were strangers.

And if you thought that young people were leading the way in terms of promiscuity, think again. It's the over-50s who are engaging in the more risky side of relationships, the survey suggests, with one in three claiming to have slept around and had unprotected sex with strangers.

Of the 18-21-year-olds surveyed, 19% said they'd waited until they were 16 to have sex (though that implies an awful lot don't).

Do you think getting carried away in the moment is a poor excuse for not being responsible about sex?

Importance Relax Before Making Love

What if when sex lasts one among couples do not feel comfortable or even depressed? Of course it will cause an unhealthy relationship.
Therefore, it is important to mencipatkan atmosphere relaxed and comfortable before having sex. That way, the enjoyment and satisfaction would be equally achieved by each party (husband and wife) of these sexual activities.
Cozy
Make sure you and your partner feel comfortable before having sex. How could vary, could with bath together, romantic dinner or other activity that can make you both comfortable with that togetherness.
Agreement
Basically, sex must be approved by both parties (husband and wife). Therefore, you should make kesepatan before sexual activity took place. Because if one party refused to reason, then sexual activity would only satisfy one side, while the half-hearted partner sex melakoni it.
Melt the atmosphere with chat
It’s much more fun if each of you each express a desire to get from your partner when sexual activity took place. That way, each of you will reach the pleasure as expected.
With talk before having sex will give you both for evaluating deficiencies when couples have sex. True to what you both like and dislike of sexual activity conducted will bring comfort while “battle bed” occurs.
Foreplay
Sometimes foreplay is often a forgotten activity. In fact, pre-intercourse activity can also be a round where you and your spouse can each “heat up” with each other before getting into intercourse, as well as “savings” for the adrenaline rushing when reaching climax